May 23, 2012

2 month and 9 month check ups & Citizenship (not yet)

We have just gotten home from Miss C's 9 month check up and Cailyn is in perfect health!  
Cailyn's height and length are now proportionate (not that it really matters) and she falls into the 85th percentile on both.  She is a big girl!


Preswim in the locker room

Life jacket training!

Enjoying the nice weather in the back yard

Trying to pick up the hose - she was successful!
Cailyn's top front teeth have almost broken through, and she has discovered that she can grind them against the bottom teeth...oh how I hate this noise!!  Cailyn can do the hand movements to a Polish song that all Polish kids learn.  We have modified it with some English and changed some of the motions, but she knows them now!   Speaking of her teeth, here is a great pic of her after an organic teething biscuit...
Yummy cookie!

This week on The Next Family I write about our first doctor visit here at home and the agony of whether to vaccinate or not!
http://thenextfamily.com/topics/family/surrogacy-family/kerrie-olejarz/


We had hoped Cailyn would be a Canadian citizen by now, but sadly, it looks like this process will be quite lengthy.  We had thought about taking a trip this summer but will not be able to as Cailyn will not have a valid passport and cannot get one without proof of citizenship.  In typical fashion, if I had birthed her myself out of country there would be no delay.

On Sunday I awoke to an alarming statement made on Facebook by a Toronto based lawyer.  Here are the words that made me beyond angry:  

Surrogacy in India has become increasingly popular, mostly because of the anticipated lower costs. There have been several incidents in which the babies born were not genetically linked to the intended parents, which presumably happened as a result of a mix-up in the laboratory. If the laboratory standards were below par, how can we be confident that the medical care is adequate? This week, an Ind...ian surrogate in her 8th month of pregnancy, had a seizure. The clinic's first reaction was to deliver the baby and then arrange for care for the surrogate. She died Now we know that both the intended parents and the clinics treat the surrogates as commodities, and anyone who chooses India does so on this basis.

I was so pissed reading this lawyer's so called personal opinion on a subject she knows nothing about.  This also makes me believe that she is trying to drum up fear with Canadians based on her hair brained assumptions, thus, keeping her bank account full here at home.  Of course, all of us who travel to India want the very best for our surrogate's well being, family and her life in general.  I have personally heard stories from here at home when Dr's had to make the decision to remove a baby asap and then deal with the ill mother afterwards.  It is very sad that in the related story that the surrogate did not make it, and all of us in our community mourn for her family.  As much as we mourn, we know this is not the "norm" as we have witnessed first hand.   I could ramble on about this for ever as I am so passionate about it, but I won't.  All I know, is if I was the owner of the clinic (Pulse) in Ahmedabad, I would not tolerate such slander.

3 comments:

  1. She is a tall, happy girl. So adorable when I got to meet her in person. Sorry about the sad press and bad press. The service in India is remarkable and they choose to publish one awful incident. Sad but that happens here in the US as well.

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  2. Love the photos of Miss C outside! She looks like a cat stalking its prey. So cute. And give it a break people, there are positive and negative stories EVERYWHERE.

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  3. Cailyn is so freaking cute! The citizenship process is painfully slow for us as well. We are now grateful for the Full Passport that expires in 2 yrs rather than the temporary one. Hopefully you will not have to wait much longer.

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